Let's put the "X" in Sex

I'm not talking about the Kiss song. By "X" I mean "Chi," as in Christ. With partying, comes sex. At least most of the time. You can't go to a bar without seeing people trying to get it on. That is, until I open my bar based on the Eubarist concept. Even there though, I hope that people will still want to have sex with one another. The sexual feeding trough concept, popular at college parties and beyond, will not fly. I hope that I have made the case that drinking and Christianity are compatible, but what about this other common aspect of partying? Surely no Christian could actually think that drinking AND sex are good, that's a bridge too far or whatever.

Sexy Jesus!

Wrong. Christians love sex. We approach it differently than denizens of your average frat house, but we do love it. We love doing it, we love talking about it, and we love when it is really, really good. People talk about Christian Sexual Ethics, as if all Christians are worrying about is what to do and what not to do. What is forbidden and what isn't. Clean and dirty, etc. I would like to talk about Christian sexuality. Christians want to have the best sex possible, and I believe that they are onto something in their efforts to do so. Also, we did not invent missionary position, just missionaries.

Christian sexuality is all about the whole person. We do not see sex as a simple physical need. In fact, nothing is simply a physical need because our souls and bodies are tied together. If sex were simply a physical need, we could do it with anyone, at anytime, and it would all be the same. This is a common attitude today: that sex is purely physical, it is possible to do it with no strings attached. It's not serious. For Christians there are always strings attached though, because what we do to our bodies has spiritual implications. St. Paul writes "Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ?" and that "your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you." Our bodies are precious. They are essential to our relationship with Jesus and to the Holy Spirit.

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In a Christian understanding, when two people have sex they become one flesh. Two people become one unit. Their whole being together is itself a temple to the Holy Spirit, and they are in Christ's body together. There is a lot at stake, therefore, in deciding what to do with one's body. There is way more to it than wanting it and getting it. We don't stay out all night to get lucky, we're keeping vigil.

What's the benefit though? Surely God must have a reason to be such a cockblocker. The benefit is a level of intimacy that surpasses human comprehension because it is part of a divine plan. Approaching sex as just physical will lead to intimacy that is just physical. If sex is emotional, physical, and spiritual, then intimacy is emotional, physical, and spiritual. How much more intimate can you get than one flesh? It is perfect intimacy, made possible by God's presence in the relationship. Christian sexuality calls us to this level of intimacy because it is Holy, righteous, and the sex is smoking hot.

A part of this invitation to intimacy is the call to be faithful and to wait. Most people agree that being faithful is important, so I won't dwell on that. Only having sex with one person at a time makes sense. But waiting for sex, only having sex with one person in your whole life... no way. That is too much for most modern, secular people. Wouldn't we get bored? Waiting for the right person and only having sex with them means that they get everything. Every time you make love, you know this person in a way that no one else has or ever will know them for all time. This clears the way for complete trust. Every part of your being is shared with only one person.

Beautiful!

This discussion would not be complete without talking about love. Love is the essence of Christianity and it is the essence of Christian sexuality. Without love, for Christians, life is empty, and sex is empty. God's relationship toward people is one of intense, unconditional love and devotion. Christian sexuality calls people to be filled with God's love so that they are empowered to love their partners more than they ever could alone. Humans are only capable of loving people so much. Christian sexuality asks for more than we can give, but promises that God will help us. In terms of doing it, this results in a new meaning for the term sex God.

More sexy Jesus

I am passionate about this topic and could keep writing. But, in writing as in sex, it's not all about duration. Please continue the conversation in the comments if you feel so inclined. Today's drink is based on the Sex on the Beach, for obvious reasons.

Sex on the Shore of Galilee

Ingredients: 2 oz. white rum, 1 oz. Malibu Coconut Liqueur, 2 oz. pineapple juice, 2 oz. pomegranate juice.